I have heard this too often, that sex life become less and less alive after having a baby. The stress of being a new mom, more chores, more responsibilities, more accountability. There is just no end to it.
Plus those additional love handles do not help at all to make you feel sexy and in the mood for some lovin', right? But doesn't mean you don't want to. And for sure, your husband still loves to. But you both feel awkward and unsure. Well, fear no more. Here are some tips from Dr. Lisa Terrell and a few other moms. Read this article for the details: Get the Sex Life You Want (Even if You’ve Got a Baby)
But to summarize, here's a bullet list of things to do:
Embrace the awkward
He's already your partner for quite some time now so there's no reason not to embrace the absurd and the awkward. If you're still uncomfortable with your partner, then there's something wrong with your relationship. So, be bold and embrace those awkward moments.
Whether they admit or deny, fact is, men like naughty girls. It excites them. So go on...unleash the sexy, naughty bitch in you!
Give your body a break
Don't get frustrated if you are not as juicy as you were before. It's those hormones to blame, not you. But that doesn't mean you can't do anything about it. Visit your local drugstore for some "help".
Give the boy a break
Don't think that the burden is all on you. Your partner may be stressed out and tensed about the new baby as well. So don't feel it's unfair, talk to him instead about your "shares" of responsibilities. Bottled resentment kills any chance to be intimate.
Both of you went through a very difficult time in delivering the baby and after a while without having sex, you may need time to warm up before you start at it again. Take things one at a time...
Strip, tease, and get naked! No matter how many love handles you gained, naked is still sexy. Plus your partner loves you! So those love handles are really lovable, touchable and irresistible to him.
Uhh...quicksies are hot! You can't argue with that!